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Things to say to a survivor of sexual misconduct:
- I’m glad you told me.
- I’ll support whatever you choose to do.
- I can assist you in getting the help and resources you need.
- I’m here for you.
- Thanks for telling me.
- I’m sorry that happened to you.
- It’s not your fault.
- What can I do to help?
- You can always talk to me.
Things NOT to say to a survivor of sexual misconduct:
- Well, what were you wearing?
- Were you drinking?
- Why didn’t you…?
- Were you leading them on?
- You shouldn’t have…
- They thought you were hot, take it as a compliment.
- They just couldn’t help themselves.
- Did you fight back?
- Why did you let them defile you like that?
Common signs of trauma:
- Body aches
- Gastrointestinal issues
- Increase or decrease in sexual activity
- Compromised decision making
- Changes in eating or sleeping habits
- Outward displays of emotion don't mirror inward emotion (i.e. laughing while describing their assault.)
- Mood swings
- Self-medicating behavior
- Extreme paranoia
- Difficulty recalling details of events surrounding the trauma